Each year brings lessons.
People come and go.
Loved ones pass to spirit.
Betrayal could’ve visited you
Debt may have found you
A lover may have left you,
Your health may have
Look back on the year that was and look for the gifts hindsight has brought you…
You may be grateful for the gift of patience. You may have seen those who truly have your back, as well as those who are toxic to your physical & mental health.
You may have lost faith and found your resolve. The gift of reality and common sense can be a blessing when it comes to making tough decisions. You may have had to make a very tough call and taken the consequences that came with it. The strength of spirit that ignited within you was your inner strength stepping forward.
You may have learnt the value of having one good friend by your side. Loyalty indeed is one of the true virtues but only when it is reciprocated in kind. As loyalty in the wrong company can get you killed. As the bells toll on New Year’s Eve, put away the weighing scales, be grateful
You get to see in a new year while another has taken their last breath. The gift of aging is not given to everyone so stop rallying against it and embrace every line, wrinkle & stretch mark. If you’re being careless with your health, ask yourself why?
For beneath your self destructive behaviour you are crying out to be seen & loved.
It is imperative you see yourself as lovable and know how worthy you are of being loved.
Money is a by product of happiness. When we look after ourselves, rest, nurture & nourish our spirits. We are able to look after those around us with enthusiasm and our natural proclivity to abundance flows. When we become trapped in a stagnant thought pattern and systemic mindset we adopt a victim mentality or feel we are not worthy of good things happening. You are worthy of having good things happen to you.
When was the last time you laughed so hard no sound came out? Can you remember? Allow the joy of that memory to fill
You up, as it will shield you in unexpected times of hardship. Make plans this coming year for moments with people who make you laugh. Dance.
Music reaches the soul. Have you ever noticed how children need very little encouragement to dance?
How singing out loud in your car can totally change your mood after a tough day. Make a playlist of your favourite songs and have them ready when you need them to lift you. I’ve given up count at how many times I’ve been caught chair dancing at traffic lights….
Above all be kind to yourself.
Learn from the past and do not allow yourself to carry it into the coming year. The lesson has been learned and it’s time to turn the page on a brand new chapter in your life. Onward….
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
There is a lecherous group of people that prey on the innate kindness of others. They are drawn to seek out the sweetest, nicest individuals. Usually the people they are drawn to are codependent/ have codependent traits, have issues setting boundaries etc.
Did you know 1 in 25 people are sociopaths. Sociopaths thrive on manipulating people. Obliging individuals are used as disposable pawns for their bidding.
They detest people who have boundaries, opting to seek out kind helpful souls who will carry out their conditional demands unconditionally!!!!
How do you know you have a sociopath in your life? They thrive on drama, often have no regard for rules or societal norms. Will change relationships / friendship groups quite often as they can’t keep
Up the illusion for very long. They are manipulators & liars, throwing anyone under the bus so they don’t have to accept responsibility for their callous actions. A sociopath has a high retention for obtaining emotional data & will happily research their subjects, perusing their Facebook pages, social media to gain as much knowledge as possible on their subject. They possess an uncanny likeability & charm. You simply can’t help liking them, even though they seem to land themselves in situations most of us would never find ourselves in. The other aspect here is that they have a complete lack of regard to your personal safety etc as they can be irrational & spontaneous. The sociopath can’t for the life of themselves plan ahead. Unless that is of course, they have people around them they can manipulate to do this!
There is never a dull moment with these individuals. They are great storytellers & they bring the p to a party. Being around them the world feels brighter. If you suffer from low self esteem & don’t like attention on you, it’s crack cocaine for them. They have a captive audience & the focus is on them. They will help you if they have an agenda. They will have no problem reminding you of how they helped you. Their relationships are conditional. When you have fulfilled your use, the sociopath discards you. You will be ghosted at the flip of a coin with zero conscience on their part.
The devastation in the lives of those they have used, the confusion & betrayal friends & lovers feel. I’ve had clients referred to counselling as they simply couldn’t understand how another human being could be so cruel. The reality of the aftermath, as the realisation it had all been a lie is heart breaking to witness.
Understandably, you become incredibly wary of other humans and are very careful of who you place your trust in.
Unfortunately, some continuously place their trust in the wrong people again & again. Failing to see that the common denominator here is themselves. Statements such as “I always end up getting used”, or “I attract the wrong kind of men”, are loaded with a victim mentality that is crippling to self realisation.
No is a full sentence.
That horrible feeling in your gut that something is wrong is 100% accurate.
Trust your vibes.
Kindness costs nothing. A kind word, a thoughtful act.
When someone performs a kindness for you, that has no agenda or thoughts of receiving- you are touched to the core.
All too often we are disappointed, as we have made the classic error of projecting our integrity on to those who do not possess it.
By setting healthy boundaries with everybody in our lives, really sorts the takers from the givers.
There’s an old saying:
Stop crossing oceans for those who wouldn’t cross a puddle for you!
For those of us who believe in Balance, are happy when our loved ones set boundaries. For when we do respect follows.
Setting boundaries with sociopath / narcissistic personality types you are likely to encounter a rage you’ve never witnessed before. They will have an adult tantrum & will literally throw their toys out of the cot.
How dare you set boundaries!
The cheek of you!
Have you no idea how long it took to select & groom you to my liking?
They will immediately try to Shame & guilt trip you into apologizing for YOUR BAD JUDGEMENT!!!!!!
You will be gas-lighted back into submission……sound familiar?
Since the odds are so high, chances Are most people reading this will have experienced an encounter with a sociopath at some point. One thing to remember is they cannot experience empathy in any way.
You need to remember the lesson they have taught you & get as far away from them as physically possible. They will never change. Oh and if you were thinking counselling would help…they will use the cognitive tools taught in therapy to manipulate to an even higher degree!!!!
You deserve love.
You deserve respect.
If you are sitting at a table where neither of these dishes are being served….leave the goddamn table!
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
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Drugs affects every single class & walk of life. It does not discriminate. I’ve sat across countless family members whose lives have been torn apart by a loved one who is an addict. I’ve read for countless recovering addicts who literally take it one day at a time.
It can be so difficult to separate the disease of addiction from the addict. For addicts will sell anything that holds any value to score. Objects that hold massive sentimental value to a family are a quick source of cash to an addict. An addict will rob from their mother’s purse, lie, cheat & steal. The addiction takes hold and tunnel vision ensues…fixating on how they will get their next fix.
Debts begin to build with various dealers, black eyes are passed off as random encounters. At this point the erratic nature in the addicts personality rings alarm bells in family members. They lose weight and have lost all aspirations or concern for their appearance.
Entire friendship groups become riddled with joint addiction.
There is a dealer with a few yards of where you live right now. It is an epidemic. If you’re lucky enough not to have an immediate family member affected by it, I guarantee it will affect a relation.
The shame a mother feels when she finds out her son or daughter has an addiction. Her immediate reaction is to blame herself. If she could only of done something sooner or stopped it earlier.
It is not your fault.
An addict needs love as well as boundaries. Helplines such as drugs.ie provide helpful advice and can link you in to services.
Sadly, the services in this flailing health system are limited. Ultimately it falls back on the family to surround the addict with support.
In certain African tribes, when a baby is born… the tribe sings a unique song to that child. That song is sung at birthdays & celebrations, but also when the child commits offences against the tribe.
For it is only the tribe that can remind the child of their song that they may have forgotten.
Indeed it is the child that must accept responsibility for their recovery and embrace their destiny.
If you are reading this and are struggling to cope with a loved one that is in the chokehold of addiction , it is actions not words you need to believe, if they ask for help – listen. Know above anything else they cannot hear their song right know. Their soul is fragmented and you need to remind them of their potential. Protect yourself. An addict uses their intelligence to emotionally manipulate. Link in with services to help you. Nar-Anon & family support groups are there to offer support. You will meet many in the group who have lived your future. Get as much support that is available to you at this time.
An addict can not recover without the support of loved ones. Please know that inside that addict is your loved one struggling to remember their song, it’s times like this you need to remember your song and ask for help…..
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
Despondency is defined as a loss of spirit or courage. Feeling disconnected from source. The light at the end of that tunnel has been switched off. Hope evaporates. People can let you down.
It is only natural to sink into despair. Our souls are weary from holding space for those that are not worthy. We literally feel as if the well has run dry & we literally have nothing left to give. A friend in the midst of this heaviness once said to me , “Fiona I’m so ready to go home to spirit, if I didn’t wake tomorrow I would be ok with that”. This person had absolutely no intention of taking their life for one second, they were verbalising how physically, emotions & spiritually exhausted they felt.
When you are despondent your energy is spent. Your motivation has left you.
Sometimes illness enters as you have spent so long pleasing everyone else & ignoring the warning signs your body had been sending you.
Your health that you once took for granted has now become your single greatest struggle. You find out who is there for you pretty fast, when you no longer have the strength or energy to people please. Those that leave you in your hour of need, are not your friends. This might be painful to hear but takers will always take. It’s not a two way source of exchange, hence your energy being consistently drained. If you have been projecting a sense of integrity on to those that lack this virtue, is it any wonder you are completely exhausted?
A rage can fill your body.
A pulsating, visceral destructive force that wants to lash out at the source of your pain. When you internalise anger, the body stores it & it will manifest as a form of dis-ease within the body. I’ve had countless amounts of client’s sit in front of me with mystery diagnosis where their bloods / x-rays / tests came back clear, yet they were physically ill. In most cases the client had endured some grief / heartbreak / trauma that had been repressed as they were too busy to deal with it at the time, only to manifest years later. Toxic pain can squat in your body like a toad & Spread its poisonous bile into your thoughts, hopes & dreams.
You start to become pessimistic, sarcastic & wary of people. You no longer believe in the goodness or kindness of strangers. Everybody has an angle or agenda. Sadly, that is what you will start to attract in your life, hence reinforcing your twisted belief system even further.
You need to distance yourself from the source of your pain. If it is family, go no contact to dissolve the raw emotion. If it is a child / teenager causing the issues contact the appropriate support systems & seek professional help.
It is time to stop running and listen to your body.
Destructive cycles of comfort eating / smoking / drinking / impulse buying / hoarding are the dysfunctional defence mechanisms that you revert to when trying to hide from yourself.
We can sink into victimhood with its twin sisters blame & Shame’s endless background commentary running inside our heads.
Happiness is a choice.
You have to fight for it.
When your body is heavy with sorrow & your soul is weary you need to be even more loving with yourself. It’s time to check in with yourself.
If you’ve suffered a betrayal and feel completely alone, know this time is transitory. It shall not last. You need time out to rebuild & restore the soul. You can’t do that with folks still pulling out of your energy.
You need to forgive yourself for putting up with so much crap for so long instead of ridiculing yourself at your “stupidity” for believing in intrinsic values of love, trust & respect. Remember the heart simply wants to be loved. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be seen.
It’s time to make peace with yourself.
This graveyard of despair holds no solace for you. There is no comfort to be found clinging to the bones of old relationships, family or friends that have abandoned you. Cherish the good & learn from the bad.
Even if it’s simply making your bed and going for a walk. It’s a step toward self care that’s important.
Start to incorporate fun into your life. Play your music. Dance. Watch a favourite film. Reconnect with old friends. Take up a hobby & meet new people.
You will start to fill up inside once more. The more time you invest on yourself , the more the universe will find people & situations that will fill you up even more.
You need to let that shit go.
Now is as good a time as any……..
©Fiona Ní Mhuirri
Gossip is juicy.It falsely elevates us to a social standing above the target in question. “I mean her windows haven’t been washed in over a month…..how can she see out of them!”
It’s intention is to direct scorn & shame upon an individual.
The valley of the squinting windows is alive and well today, and as a woman there is a hierarchy we are all too aware of in our local village/ town.
Gossip contains needles of spite.
True, you may be sick of the fact your Neighbour’s garden is in a hoop, but did you stop to think what’s going on with your neighbour? Has there been a recent bereavement, is there mental health issues? Sometimes it can be personal issues in someone’s life & the exterior mirrors the emotional chaos in your Neighbour’s life.
What if you offered to mow their lawn? Would the world fall off its’ axis? (And don’t use that as another opportunity to gossip ffs!)
Gossip has its uses. At a grassroots levels it raises awareness & keeps us connected to our communities. We are aware of the helpers as well as the bad apples so to speak.
At a toxic level, it can isolate & intimidate. An example of this were the Magdalene laundry’s where entire communities were complacent in the shaming & subsequent institutionalizing of so called “fallen” women.
The Salem witch trials fell foul under the fear & repression of being singled out as different from your community. We pass the blame from one to another, desperately trying to avoid the unforgiving gaze of our peers.
(Someone should be ringing a bell, shouting SHAME, SHAME, SHAME!)
Instead of standing up and saying,
You’re very pass remarkable….
I don’t pass on Gossip…
If I don’t hear it I can’t say it!
Gossip needs Oxegen. It cannot survive without a carrier. So in essence being an ‘innocent’ bystander makes you complicit. You are complicit in standing there while someone’s character is being slandered. In my opinion that’s makes you just as bad as the actual gossip. Next time you’re about to partake in the “who didn’t put there bins out today” rant or “her curtains are still drawn at 10 am” hiss…
Think about the energy you are redirecting toward yourself.
You passive aggressives are the worst. Smiling & offering help, then telling anyone who will listen how helpful you were…
He who gossips to you will gossip about you.
There is an old Buddhist story of two monks……
They had taken a vow of silence , celibacy (no contact whatsoever with women) & poverty. They lived a simple life & were on their way to a temple in another village to pay respects to a visiting holy man.
As they came to the outskirts of their village, there path was blocked by the river. The recent monsoon had raised the water levels, crossing it took skill & sure footedness.
There was a woman in distress at the banks, for she had tried and failed to cross several times.
One of the monks, without saying anything. Picked up the woman and carried her safely across to the other side, where he gently put her down & continued on his way to the monastery.
The other monk was furious.
They continued on in silence, but with each step the monk’s frustration grew until he could no longer stand it, he blurted out”
Why did you do it? You know we are forbidden to have any contact with women?”
The other monk looked at him and spoke” all I did was carry her to the other side, you’ve been carrying her ever since….”
To put it simply..
MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS!!!!!
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
This weather has brought all of us outdoors. Some of us get our Green fingers on, some folk indulge in a bit of D.I.Y. And others relax in the heavenly rays.
The sound of children playing & lawnmowers humming has become background music at this point.
I’ve had great chats with my neighbors, as my nightly ritual of me pottering with my watering can has led to spontaneous conversations.
Since I’ve taken the summer off evening Sittings, I’m no longer rushing to get ready for clients etc.
The phone had crept back into the bed room & is now been relegated to the kitchen at night. My trusty analogue alarm clock stepping up once more.
I witnessed an individual recently that was so obsessed with their phone, they were disengaging from the conversation in front of them & were more preoccupied with updating their social media. That used to be me!
I would’ve loved to pull them aside and ask them to be present with the company around them. I realized it was pointless.
Answer me this, why show a Facebook live from a concert? The sound is rubbish, the image quality is diabolical & you’re so caught up with filming it you’re missing out on being lost in the moment.
Yet, I’ve seen nothing but constant streams of Facebook lives at concerts, from so many people these last few weeks.
It’s as if our lives must be posted on social media. How about we become present in the moment. How about we surrender to a song & lose ourselves in a moment , put the goddamn phone away during a meal & listen to the conversation taking place right in front of you?
I observed a recent conversation in a group whereby those that were not speaking reached for their phones & disengaged as the subject matter / attention had moved on from them & naturally on to another person / topic.
Have we become so self obsessed that we are only concerned with what we have to say, instead of listening to another’s point of view?
I’ve witnessed on individual stop mid sentence , answer a text message holding everyone around him to ransom then continue unapologetically with the conversation as if nothing had happened!!!! Have basic manners become eroded from this instant gratification culture?
When we become present in the moment, we notice so much. We can connect with our bodies, ascertain our stress levels & gauge our strength levels. The body is always speaking to us, yet we are always rushing, rushing, rushing to stop & LISTEN.
The universe is always listening & will manifest our conscious thoughts into reality, if they are repetitive & strong enough. It does not matter if it’s positive or negative. Thoughts become things…. So what is your inner voice saying to you?
Is your inner critic eroding from within? Are you trusting yourself? Are you happy?
We all have a go to when stress levels are high. For some it’s talking to a friend, listening to music, others going to the gym or playing sport . For me this summer it’s my garden. The act of weeding, planting & watering brings me into my body. I find it incredibly grounding.
What are you doing for yourself this summer? Have you become caught up in a never ending to do list? Are you too busy pleasing everyone else to notice the tiredness in your voice? What can you do in this moment to change that?
We spend so much time thinking about the past & worrying about the future, that we forget this present moment.
Try to be present in yourself & your body today, whether it’s listening to a conversation or eating a meal. See the difference it will make. See how much you notice and if you really want to notice the world around you…..put the phone away for awhile!
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
Just before I stand on stage,
I question every life choice I’ve made that led to this present moment! What was moments ago a sensation of butterflies in my tummy, has amped itself right up to a stampeding herd of elephants! I hear the excited chatter of the audience as they begin to take their seats.
I take a moment to invoke my guides, discuss said life choices with them & build my energy. I step on to the stage and begin.
By the time the intermission has arrived, I have a feel of the room’s energy. Some folk don’t know if they should clap or stay silent etc! Some audiences can join right in! Each audience is different & no two nights are ever the same!
I’m noticing familiar faces and how relaxed they are in the crowd, as the trust they have bestowed in me as a medium to connect with their loved ones has already been established. I’m also noticing how many people are coming solo & by the end of the night end up happily chatting away to the folk seated next to them.
I’m approached by some afterwards & told they had felt strongly pulled to attend. I feel that’s not simply about connecting to a loved one in spirit but also connecting to themselves. The bond of love is one we all share. It is what makes this life bearable.
To be united by these bonds, breaks down barriers. Shields come down & people make connections. All our loved ones in spirit want is for us to be happy. I’m also asked why their loved ones didn’t come through etc.
Sometimes this is simply down to time constraints, as it is a demonstration of mediumship not 1-to-1 readings etc! Your loved ones are always present and can be helping others come through.
I also get a kick out of those who sit at the back, thinking they are safe from getting picked first!!!! I’ve lost count how many times my first link in spirit has been from the back of the room!
I do a meet & greet afterwards. There will always be one or two audience members who stayed silent as I relayed the information on stage, approach me after I’ve been demonstrating for over two hours and expect me to connect 1-to-1 in a middle of a queue….it beggars belief!
There is no point coming up to a medium after a show and asking them to re-connect. If the medium asks you, that’s different…the message could be of a sensitive nature but otherwise it’s not appropriate. I’m usually nearly the last to leave the building!
As I go to bed my heart feels full. It’s moments like this that every fibre in my body sings in harmony with the universe. I know that this is part of my divine life mission. I know what I do may appear to be unusual to the outside observer, but to me it’s very ordinary. It’s simply what I was born to do…..
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
My voting card arrived today. I’m against using abortion as a contraceptive option but I’m pro-choice as it’s none of my goddamn business what you do with your body.
I’ve had close friends who had terminations due to Fatal fetal abnormality & I’ve also sat across from clients traumatized from the degrading experience of traveling abroad for the procedure.
The aggression coming from the No side is palpable. I want the right to have autonomy over my body. No religious group or government should have a say over what I do with my body. The hypocrisy of these so called Christians. First they threw us into Magdalene Laundries for hard labour, then our babies were sold from under us & now we are being shamed because our bodies can’t carry these terminally ill fetuses.
I sometimes wonder….where is your compassion for the mother?
Why force her to carry a little one that will have zero chance of survival outside of the womb just so you can feel good about yourself? If that’s the kind of God you believe in then I want no part of it.
What about her?
What about the traumatizing effect it will have on her for the rest of her life?
It’s all about SHAME.
Us irish are masters of being ashamed. That catholic guilt goes right to our core. Ashamed of being different. Confirming to whatever society / family wanted us to be.
Being laden down with obligation to church, state & society.
What will the Neighbour’s say?
The valley of the squinting windows is now online. You can snoop & sneer on your Neighbour’s profile with your holier than though judgement.
The face burning, toe clenching, stomach dropping feeling of SHAME
Until one woman says
Then another & another, until together we rise. The voices get louder. There will always be those that seek to control you. That tell you to keep your voice down. That will impose their polarizing, patronising patriarchal viewpoints on you.
Have you no shame?
I ask….have you no compassion?
Salvita died because her surgeon’s hands were tied by the 8th. Abolishing it opens up a forum for discussion on terminations in Ireland & the provision for services for women like Salvita.
I’ve heard ignorant viewpoints with more compassion for a several week old fetus than the mother carrying it. Love both? Are you deluded? Where was the love shown to Salvita or to any of the women courageous enough to share their stories with us since the debate began.
Where is the respect for each other’s viewpoints?
We live in a democracy. Folk died to give you the right to vote yes or No. I saw a person post that they won’t be voting as they didn’t know what to vote. Educate yourself!
Do not be complacent that the “yes” vote will be carried. Sadly, this vote has become entangled in extreme religious viewpoints.
I can only go by my conscience.
I have nothing but compassion for every woman effected by the 8th amendment. I will use my vote in the hope that other women will not have to endure the suffering you all went through. Salvita’s name translates as “the saviour”. In her memory I feel thousands of Irish women will be spared the same fate by a yes vote.
“Shame should be reserved for the things we choose to do, not the circumstances that life puts on us”
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
The clock has struck midnight & with it I enter my 41st year.I returned from a wonderful, relaxing family holiday yesterday. It was the first time my entire family were together on holiday since my teenage years. I laughed every day. My sister & I immediately regressed into borrowing each other’s clothes, swiping each other’s cosmetics etc.
My Dad ended up with his own wee gang of friends as he’s such a chatterbox (see where I get it from!) & one lovely lady from Cork said “Age is only a number love, you don’t see the years go by”. She assumed I was upset turning 41.
Thing is I’m grateful that I get to turn 41…
The last few years I’ve seen family pass to spirit, seen clients cross over & every day I connect clients to their loved ones in spirit.
It has given me a sense of perspective, if you will.
I’ve become more aware of how amazing my body is. How much crap it’s put up with. I’ve started to treat it with care. I’ve started to listen to its needs & my energy has started to change dramatically.
I’ve no time for drama.
I say what I have to say. Not in a ballsy IDGAF way, but calmly & assertively speak my truth.
Sadly by doing so I’ve let a lot of friends go. I had sadly attracted a lot of codependent relationships over the years. In my codependent recovery, I began to see how toxic & draining these one-sided “friendships” had become. I now understand what jealousy looks like. I don’t give second chances.
I’ve steered clear of zealous, over ambitious colleagues. Love & light my arse! I now have very few colleagues I would seek professional advice from. Not everyone that smiles at you is your friend or even a helpful colleague. Some see you as simply stepping stones on their path of destroying anything that gets in their way to greatness.
I’ve learned not to dwell in the bitterness of betrayal. Lao Tsu’s words “Before you embark on a journey of Revenge, dig two graves”, has been a strict code I’ve adhered to, even unbeknownst to the offending party I had evidence enough to annihilate them…,I chose peace. Begrudgingly at first, then with time & experience…surprisingly quickly.
I’m incredibly careful
With my close circle.
I’ve worked damn hard on family ties.
I’ve learned to say sorry.
I’ve learned to accept an apology. I’ve also learned when to cut ties & be done.
I’ve learned to accept my flaws.
I’ve also learned the other people’s opinions of me is none of my business.
I don’t care what you think of me.
I don’t need to be liked or accepted. I laughed out loud yesterday as my two black cats followed me down my street & into my house I said aloud “it’s time to get the villagers with their torches out!”
I get sick of the copycats….yes you…creeping on my profile…not liking on any post but happily swiping my content for your page….I’m grateful for you too! You’ve taught me to be more creative, more original & less complacent. Those that have demanded I answer their requests, questioned my integrity & have no sense of propriety I say thank you. You made me stronger, sharper &
I’ve learned to set healthy boundaries with everyone in my life. Period.
Being the Mum of a teenager has taught me patience…..the ability to discuss difficult issues & be able to LISTEN.
I know someone reading this now, will have someone they love that has recently passed or is about to pass to spirit. I send you love.
The fact that I’m here to welcome my 41st year on this planet is an honour. Some of my darkest moments have turned out to be my greatest teachers. In truly surrendering to my own darkness could I finally see the light. In embracing my path, could I truly help others find their way.
So I feel incredibly humble, very lucky & grateful I’m here on this blue planet that’s hurtling through space, writing words that are bounced off satellites for you to read on a tiny portable device wherever you are on this beautiful earth…….Thank you for being a part of my journey, my lessons & my life
P.s There is an active fundraiser on my page for The Irish Cancer Society. I would be deeply grateful if you would be so kind to contribute. Thank you x
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri
As the years go by, so do the lessons. They come in various guises. Some arrive as close friendships only to reveal betrayal’s underbelly as the Teacher; Others enter as passionate love affairs that break apart on the seas of trust. Bereavement can attack your core values & belief system.
Wisdom comes in many forms. We may not realize the lesson until many years later & be grateful for that painful Pearl it revealed. Here are some of the lessons I’ve learnt. I hope they help you, make you smile as you see your own lessons mirrored Their-in or help you in the middle of your current life lesson: Firstly,
* Learn to come from a place of non reactivity. We ALL have issues, everyone is fighting an invisible battle with some current lesson moving through their life. Remember that before you react. * If you can count your blessings & friends on the one hand you’re doing well.
* Don’t allow betrayal to make you bitter. Learn the lesson and move on. Don’t take your past into your present. There are good people in the world.
* Most folk are too busy worrying about themselves to give a flying monkeys what you are doing with your life. * Trust your gut.
It truly never lies.
* when you ignore the above, try not to beat the crap out of yourself, but acknowledge the gift of hindsight & TRUST YOUR GUT next time! * Treat yourself! You are worth it!
* If you wouldn’t say it to a person’s face don’t post it online.
* If you would say it to a person’s face, let it pass through the Buddha’s 3 gates.Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true?
* Stay away from Toxic people & gossips. He who gossips to you will gossip about you. There are no exceptions. * Don’t gossip. Allow the salacious whispers to die with you. * No is a perfect full sentence.
* Your time is valuable. Only gift it to those that are worthy.
* Look after your health. Our bodies are truly amazing & can take so much abuse. You will never realise how precious it is until it’s taken from you. * Set healthy boundaries with Everyone in your life.
* You might think you’re great company but don’t overstay your welcome in a person’s home.
* When visiting bring a small gift or token of appreciation for your host. Also send a card of thanks after attending a party. It truly is appreciated.
* Send that Mass card. Go to a removal. Death is a part of life. Families appreciate the support.
* Don’t leave it until someone dies to meet up with old friends/ family members. Lift the phone.
* Appreciate your parents. Learn from them. Call them. Never again will you have two people so completely in your corner. (If your parents were toxic, learn how not to parent & look after your mental health).
* A healthy ambition is good, but do not allow it to take over your life. Cultivate hobbies & interests outside of work.
* Teenagers need space. They also need a lot of love. Keep giving hugs. Get used to swearing under your breath!
* Animals are earth angels. If you have a pet you get it! We need to protect them & give them a voice in the world.
* Let your friends be there for you in times of trial. As it’s the quickest way to find out who your true friends are.
* Be wary of strangers who tell you their entire life story upon meeting them. Hold on to your personal space. These people just want to dump on you! Avoid at all costs!
* Look after your mental health. There will come a time in your life where you will face mental anguish. Talk. Reach out. In some cases seek professional help. Your beautiful heart deserves all the help it can get. * Diets don’t work. Healthy eating & exercise does. Your welcome….!
* Drink water. Your skin is your bodies largest organ. The difference it makes is shocking! * Laugh. Often & with whomever or whatever makes you chuckle!
* Music is truly balm for the soul. Rough day? Blare your Power tunes! There’s a song for every situation. If you feel a cloud descending…….! * Carry tissues! They will always come in handy!
* Make plans! Whether it be for a holiday, a concert or a longed for night out. Give yourself something to look forward to.
* Learn about other cultures. It truly is fascinating how amazing the world is. It also helps to broaden your views. * Travel. See the world if you can. See above!
* Volunteer. Seek a charity close to your heart. Donate. Rescue. Your life will change for the better I promise. Here’s a secret I will let you in on….you get back much more than you give when you volunteer. You truly make a difference in another’s life. * Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle or tell you what you can or can’t do. * Believe in yourself.
* Be kind. Always.
©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri