6 August, 2019 10:06

I never talk about my mentors as sadly I’ve had very painful & valuable lessons from them. I would not change a single thing about those lessons as I wouldn’t be the person I am now, and I wouldn’t be able to give the insight I have without them.
I learned the lesson of forgiveness from my best friend who bought my website domain behind my back & slandered my character as they had felt I’d become ‘too big for my boots’ and took it upon themselves to ‘teach me a lesson I wouldn’t forget’.
I had to forgo a .com domain name and establish .ie which in turn made all my transactions to be declared and my business to become more regulated.
After the betrayal, years later I understood their resentment of me. I’m able to cherish the laughter, the chats and the preciousness of that friendship. I still wear my bracelet.
I will carry the memory of what was forever in my heart.
Moments before I stood on stage with another mentor…they asked me had I yet linked in with spirit. I could feel the hum of the audience and the excitement of spirit stepping through…the name ‘john’ popped into my head, closely followed by ‘Dad’, then ‘cancer’.
I was ready to work!
I relayed this to my mentor as we stepped on to the stage with rapturous applause from the audience. My mentor informed the audience we were going to bring in two links from spirit.
They asked the audience,
“I’ve a gentleman called John, standing beside me, he’s a dad and he passed with cancer….who do you have Fiona?”

You really can’t make this shit up! I remember the song Gloria in my head and immediately knew I had a lady called Gloria and a cancer connection. If it wasn’t for my complete love & trust in spirit , my ego would’ve put me in panic mode and I would’ve been frozen to the spot like a deer in the headlights.
My faith in spirit carried me through. I learned the lesson of trust in that moment.
Again, years later I can see the lesson so clearly and I wouldn’t change a thing.
Betrayal never comes from a stranger…it’s always at its most potent when it’s from someone you love or hold in highest regard.

We have all been betrayed at some point, indeed you may have been the betrayer.
The lesson is at its most valuable when you can integrate it into the fabric of your life…rather then it becoming a martyrs center piece or let bitterness rot you from the inside out.
Years later I had a phone reading with my former mentor. It was one of the most inaccurate readings I’d ever had and during it they said statements such as “you must be so frustrated you’re not famous by now”.
I thanked them for their time and knew I would never be in contact with them again, as I realized we were world’s apart in what each other’s definition of success was.
I saw how cutthroat it was amongst ‘celebrity’ mediums and I wanted no part of it.

I can happily stand here today and say my success as a Medium has been through hard work and word of mouth.
People are drawn to me as a psychic intuitive as they know I don’t judge and will hold a space for them to acknowledge their truth.

My success, is at being able to communicate love. To being honest with my family. To loving them and myself as best I can, in a balanced, principled & wholesome way.
In letting the people I love, know I love them. In being grateful in the present moment. I’ve watched good people die and was given the gift of gratitude as a result.
That’s success.
I’m not going to have the world’s most accurate psychic on my tombstone…..the speeches in my funeral analogy won’t be about my career. It will be about how I loved and how I was able to express that love in this lifetime…

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

31 July, 2019 11:32

Over the years I have crossed paths with some dubious characters.
I’ve worked in psychic fairs whereby other readers undercut each other, watched open mouthed as clients in my queue were approached for business, seen stand offs with other readers and all manner of unprofessional behaviour.
I’ve been in the presence of famous mediums and seen characters been defamed with all manner of accusations & gossip.
I withdrew quickly from the circuit of spiritualistic churches and circles as I witnessed first hand how bitchy and spiteful people can be to each other.
Lastly, I continuously experienced it firsthand myself. The more established & successful I became, the more the resentment grew, until my inner circle became just one person…me.

I’ve made so many mistakes.

I’ve Walked away from situations without speaking my truth, because I was too frightened to be hurt any more or couldn’t stand to hear what might be said.

The more I ignored my truth, the more the lessons came in a different shape or guise…but still the same lesson…just another teacher.

The lesson I began to learn was about boundaries.
I had placed a shame value on the word “No”. I felt if I didn’t say yes to everything that made me a bad person or very unspiritual.
I bore witness to characters being slated and said nothing as I didn’t wish to offend anyone (not realising this made me complicit).
It also made me vulnerable and incredibly attractive to narcissistic personality types. I found myself attracting psychic vampires, constantly being the ‘perfect’ friend , dutiful daughter, cheerful colleague , nice neighbour without being able to define my own personal space and hold on to my own opinions.
I was a sponge…attracting one sided friendships, taking on unwelcome demands on my time, pockets & heart..not to mention my sanity! As I began to grow and learn, I heard a useful expression:

Your yes has no value if you can’t say no!

I began to realise that every single relationship in my life at that point had turned toxic. I was toxic.
I had become bitter and resentful, as I had consistently failed to honour my time & energy , so I ended up completely spent & drained.
I blamed everyone else for my pain, missed opportunities , failed friendships and relationships.

Most importantly, I had failed myself. I had ignored my gut instincts, boldly marched through red flags and was completely emotionally dyslexic to the writing on the wall!
I was an active participant in my own downfall. I cared so much what people thought of me that I was emotionally spent. I got sick…
I watched my health slip through my hands and a misdiagnosis saw it slip further away. My lungs became as heavy as rocks and I was out of breath by the time I got to the top of my stairs. At one point I was on 3 inhalers and I dreaded the night as sleep was out of the question.
I understand why folk think they are cursed when everything in life goes against you , because it really feels like that at the time.
I had no other choice but to take it slow. I stopped working evenings, I stopped a lot of travel , I stopped talking people’s word as their bond and I started to work on myself.

A funny thing happened.
People started to travel to me, online readings took off,
Facebook lives replaced the radio.
Deposits deterred flaky clients.
One sided friendships dissolved.
I started to get better.
As I started to get better, I started to take responsibility for my actions. I’ve caused pain.
I contacted those that I wished to have in my life and had some of the most difficult conversations I’ve ever had. I learnt so much about myself.
Those who were meant to stay…stayed, those that were not..quickly left my life.
You see here’s the thing. When you get honest with yourself, you get real honest with those around you. I don’t mean a tactless, crude “I’ll tell it like it is”, approach. I simply don’t have time for bullshit, don’t slate someone in my presence if you’re not prepared for me to say it to the person, or whine about how unfair life is without getting up off your arse to try. Don’t smile to my face while bitching behind my back, because guess what…I know!

The more sensitive I became to my own needs, the more nourishment I gave my body & soul, the more comfortable I got in listening to my bodies red flags, when someone was lying, I trusted my intuition..and guess what? I was right!
When someone attempted to give me ‘helpful advice’..I’d spot their agenda a mile off and thanked them but didn’t take any of it on board.

The more I trusted myself , the happier I became.
I swatted opinions away like a pesky fly, whereas before I would’ve analyzed it forensically.

I still have bad days.

There’s still the odd day where I say yes instead of no, but I’m gentle on myself when I slip…I make a mental note and move on or I address an issue at a later time. I’m far less quick to anger..I’ve even been known to say “I’m angry at this moment just give me space to process!!!” Which for this taurean Bull is massive! It takes a lot to make me angry but when I charge I’m looking for blood…so that’s incredibly significant!
I’m beginning to have less regrets as I get older. I wouldn’t trade my boundaries for all the tea in China!
As I Drew that line in the sand, I never realised I would find myself at the end of it..

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

21 June, 2019 11:45

One of the most regular questions I am asked is “Will I meet my Soulmate?” I feel I need to clarify what having a soulmate in your life means.
One things for sure, it ain’t the romantic Hollywood stereotype most people envisage! Firstly we have many soulmates!
A soulmate does not have to be a romantic partner either, just someone who has massively influenced/ impacted your life. A soulmate comes into your life to help you fulfill your divine purpose.
All our lessons are different. What comes easy to one person can be a struggle for another. Our lessons come in many guises, for example you can only learn the virtue of patience by having it tested or the virtue of courage by being faced with adversity.
There is an intense , passionate connection with soulmates. Sadly, with these intense feelings also are intense opinions.
Soulmates press each others buttons, yes we placed those buttons there to begin with, but one look from your soulmate will either turn you on or will wind you up!!!
Communication is the key for these relationships to succeed. If two soulmates can navigate the tricky seas of past scars of rejection, broken trust, fear of commitment, control issues together by sharing their feelings in an open , non judgmental manner they are destined for success.
Make no mistake a soulmate relationship in its power is a very beautiful sight to behold. We all know a couple who are meant to be together and also a couple who constantly bicker.
The latter is the negative aspect of the soulmate relationship . It becomes a power struggle . The need to be constantly right, the co-dependent relationship, the passive aggressive relationship.
These issues can be worked through but they take two people who both want to stay together to make this happen.
Soulmates can be friends too. You could have a friend that was as close (perhaps even closer ) as a family member and they could betray you in a way you could not believe them capable of. This is also true of friends who come into our lives to help when we most need it!
These individuals are from our soul circle & we have known them over many lifetimes. They assist us in mapping out our life-chart and make an appearance where help or a life lesson is required.
Again with our gift of free will we can choose to become victims or martyrs to the cause, or we can see it simply as a valuable lesson & move forward with our lives.
For the soulmate card to wander into your life today, if your single it means a great passionate love is coming. Buckle your seatbelt, stay true to who you are & do not lose yourself in another before you are sure of their intentions.
If you are smiling sagely as you’re already in one, keep those communication lines open, don’t let issues build up, make time for each other.
Lastly , if you’re just out of a soulmate relationship. Take heart you will love again just as passionate & intensely as before. You need to take time to heal your heart & rebuild your self esteem. Acknowledge the lesson that came about with this relationship & begin to look to the future. Don’t focus on what you don’t want in a relationship, focus on what your heart yearns for. One things for sure, life with a soulmate is never dull!!

©Fiona Faery

By Fiona Faery

19 June, 2019 08:50

In the wake of the me-too movement and women winning rights to bodily autonomy, there is still another bastion of patriarchy that only we as women can address ourselves…. Slut shaming.
Women’s bodies have long been the symbols of religious purity and political commodity as their chaste nature was a form of social currency and prestige within a community.
Magdalene laundry’s were for the fallen women. Pariahs Of society…and were demoted by their lack of virtue. Indeed, after the war had ended women who were accused of fraternizing with the enemy had their heads shaved or were tarred and feathered. What is not written about as much, is that it was also used as a tool to control women and assert masculine dominance into society again.

The undertones are simple
Women aren’t meant to enjoy sex.
Those of us who speak about it or openly admit to enjoying sex or wanting sex are slut shamed. Yet if a man discusses sex the double standard is implied.
If a woman has many sexual partners she’s a slut….if a man has he’s one of the boys!

Yet its amongst women where this societal slut shaming is still pervasive, and a woman can still be alienated by her peers if she’s open about having one night stands or a high sex drive etc.

Where did we start to turn against each other?
Why are we collectively threatened by another women’s sexual prowess?

In sexual assault cases what the victim was wearing is often called into account.

Think you’ve never slut shamed? Think again…
“Did ya see the antics of your wan on love island”
“Did you hear who slept with so & so”
“She’s asking for it dressed like that”
“Sluuuuuut”

It’s been over 21 years since Monica lewinsky was the most googled woman on planet earth. Her mother had her shower with the bathroom door open in case she finally decided to die from the public’s shame campaign.
Slane girl in 2017 were a young girl giving fellatio to two young men went viral, ended up with the hospitalization for her breakdown.

A lesbian couple were recently viciously assaulted on a bus in England as they refused to endure lewd comments from a group of males.

Once we as women stray from the scripted ideals of how we are supposed to act, feel and love brings down a heavy condemnation……from other women.

We need to look at our attitudes to female pleasure. It feels as if we are stuck in the same puritanical patriarchal values that keep us fighting amongst ourselves.

I’m no fan of outrage culture. In these times of click & share. Twitter is alive with faceless trolls hiding behind blue screens tweeting the vilest poison humanity can dredge up. Cancel culture directs millions to unsubscribe & publicity drag an individual’s character across a million timelines, in many cases without substantiation. We are becoming desensitized.
Empathy & kindness.
Acceptance & tolerance
Think before you comment or post (or re-share!).
There can be fatal consequences for the victims of slut shaming. As a society we need to move toward embracing our sexuality & sensuality.
I wish you all many wonderful orgasms with whatever & whoever & wherever the moment takes you….

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

12 June, 2019 15:42

I want to talk about bullies….
Bullies are usually incredibly insecure individuals who lift themselves up by bringing others down.
The gossip on your street who discusses your business behind your back. The office bully who uses their position as leverage.
Teenage girls hiding behind a group chat of slander. Cardboard gangsters thinking there’re the next white version of Tupac filming young teenagers being beaten in a car so they can look good….
Most of you will nod your head reading this…but what would you do if it was your son or daughter being bullied or the bully? Would you share/ tag the video?
Would you spread the gossip?
Would you step in?
By sharing/tagging the memes/ snapchats/ screenshots YOU ARE COMPLICIT.
By standing by as another human no matter what age gets publicly humiliated YOU ARE JUST AS GUILTY. So what do you do?
If it’s on Facebook report immediately as any form of violence is against their standards. If you recognise the person….fuck your….you ok Hun? Text Ring the relevant authorities
Take screenshots
If you know the names of the bullies don’t assume the family do. Contact them. Volunteer information.
There are too many young people dying through suicide, for their horrified family to find out afterwards that their beautiful child was being picked on.
If you work in an office and witness it…don’t thank your lucky stars it’s not you. Stand up for that person. The more you do…others will follow. It takes courage.
It takes integrity.
It’s frightening.
Yet no one can take your strength of character from you.
The victim who is the target of the bully will know people cared enough to speak up. It creates a chain reaction. A school policy is founded, a hr regulation gets passed and a community comes together to defend their young against the dredges of humanity. End the silence.

©️Fiona Faery

By Fiona Faery

16 May, 2019 14:56

On my holidays with the mammy..Loving endless days filled with books, croissants & coffee.
Mum & I found a sheltered spot to read our books each morning.
The hotel cat also found us and proceeded to jump onto my lap & begin an intense grooming process of herself much to my amusement.
After she received much cuddles, she retired to the end of the sofa for a snooze.
I immersed myself in my book, to only witness a stream of different hotel guests, from different nationalities & many different languages….coo & fuss over my new feline friend. It was so heartwarming to see. Even though we didn’t speak the same language, we all understood each other perfectly. We all thought she was a complete character and brought all of us that are owned by furry familiars (and missing them) together……
Love is truly a universal language❤️

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

9 May, 2019 09:57

Is a Spiritualist a medium?
The answer is yes.
Spiritualist churches are places of worship for the practitioners of Spiritualism. The Spiritualist service is usually conducted by a medium. Generally, there is an opening prayer, an address, the singing of hymns, and finally a demonstration of mediumship.

You do not have to be a Spiritualist or connected to a religion to be a medium. A medium is an individual that connects with your loved ones in spirit. All mediums are psychic.
If you can connect with spirit you can connect with the living!!!!
However not all psychics are mediums. You can be a highly intuitive individual and use tools such as cards, runes, crystals etc for divination purposes but not have the ability to connect with spirit, hence the term fortune teller.
You will be drawn to the right reader for you. Mediums/ Psychics are regular people and have a variety of life experiences.
You will ‘connect’ with the right reader. Word of mouth is fantastic but ultimately it is a personal connection with the reader that is right for you.

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

30 April, 2019 14:46

I love romance readings.I’m a hopeless romantic! I still get excited when a happy client messages me to say they have found love once more.
It takes so much courage to be vulnerable with our hearts. To step into the arena once more and try again, daring to trust again.
Hindsight is a powerful gift.
I find the more intelligent a person, the more in danger they are of intellectualizing the process.
There comes a point where you have to surrender.
You have to take that leap of faith into the unknown.
For comfort & safety can be great bedfellows for awhile….but there is no growth there. The years can pass & whilst your heart is safe, no love can blossom in such a place.
There are no guarantees sadly.
The soulmate relationship is one of the most intense experiences to encounter. When it’s good it’s great , when it’s bad it’s horrid.
When your heart has been broken, you need to rest & recover.
The part of you that is your truth needs to assimilate the lesson.
You must accept it is over.
Suffering occurs when we internalize & Annalise every minuscule text preceding the breakup and in its wake.
The nervous exhaustion alone is enough to push you over the edge.
The endless whys / ifs/ ands or buts. The woulda/ coulda / shouldas that serve to torture us late into the night. The waking anxiety if we had said this..done that…looked like this etc.
This is what misery feels like.
Love is unconditional.
When you become awakened from a conditional mindset you begin to see patterns in all your relationships. Boundaries is a turning point in healthy mature relationships. Knowing you are enough as you are. In your gorgeous shape & sensuality. Owning your sexuality & desire.
Accepting that compliment.
Knowing you deserve to be happy.
Being vulnerable and communicating your needs to someone whose needs are equally important to you.
You deserve so much joy, but first you must acknowledge the need to fix another. The compulsive attraction to the wounded soul. That red flag that’s waving at you, is your subconscious going “iceberg straight ahead!”
How do you stop this attraction?
You acknowledge your beautiful wounded soul.
You seek help. Get to the root of the issue. Look at examples of kind people. Seek them out. Allow yourself to receive instead of endlessly give.
None of the lessons are easy.
Yet love is so precious.

If it’s one thing I’ve learned from several thousand readings over the last 20 years, it’s that when we connect with that special person all the other lessons we learned with other lovers make sense. Love is a two way street. It takes work. It’s not easy , but it most certainly is worth it.
In the end….all there is
Is love.
Don’t give up.

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

24 April, 2019 10:27

A prominent therapist I admire recently posted a recommendation for a Psychic on their Facebook page.
My initial reaction was joy, as I was tickled pink to see such a prominent mainstream person advocate us sensitives.
However, as I looked at the psychics sexual profile photo, Prices instead of profile info….I felt that sinking feeling of the prostitution of psychic services.
I loath charge by hour hotlines and I realized how many people have turned to us sensitives instead of mainstream therapists.
A major part of my work is referring clients on to therapists across a wide stream of services, whether it be Women’s aid, bereavement counselling , legal aid and mainstream therapists.

Unless stated Psychics are not therapists. Many indeed go on to train as psychotherapists, counsellors etc. We should never be used as a substitute for one.

My main purpose is to help you connect with your purpose.
You must be in the right headspace to be able to hear that guidance and feel it resonate with your core being. If you are disconnected with your own truth how do you recognize it in another?
Coming to a place of openness and acceptance within yourself if your own flaws/ pain / journey can really help you get the best from a sitting.
However if you are still fighting with yourself, it can be very difficult to hear any other insight that differs from your own blinkered, wounded perspective.

Newsflash:
Psychics are not telepathic
We do not read minds
We can not & should not tell you how to live your life.
We can only guide you & hold a sacred space for you to reflect on your journey so far and advise you on the different paths opening up to you at this transitional time in your life.

You alone must choose the path, as ultimately it is your life and you must walk your truth.
I would always advocate therapy first. Indeed , therapy is not for everyone but if you went to a hairdresser and got a bad haircut it wouldn’t put you off getting your haircut ever again.

My industry is unregulated.
When an industry is unregulated it is open to being manipulated and preyed upon by vultures. Any Tom , dick or Harry can buy a deck of cards and call Themselves “A reader to the stars”.
When an individual is ungrounded and hurting all they want is a narrative that conforms with the story they have in their heads at that point, no matter how much integrity an intuitive has, they will be tossed aside as “rubbish” as they didn’t tell The client what “they wanted to hear”.
Indeed a session with a therapist would’ve been much more beneficial to get to the root of the triggers around their victim mentality etc…
Within an unregulated industry every Psychic must become self regulated. Their codes of conduct are based on their own ethic principles/ religious beliefs etc

I adhere to a strict 6 month wait list between Sittings , this is to stop co-dependence on me as a reader and my Sittings being used as a one size fits all band aid for the sitter. It also promotes a healthy, grounded relationship between intuitive & client.

There are so many misconceptions surrounding psychics.
Why hasn’t a psychic won the lotto?
We do not have telepathic abilities, we cannot read minds.
We are simply individuals who have listened to our intuition and recognize when an individual is not listening to theirs, therefore we hold sacred space so they can find their way back home to themselves.
We should never be used as a substitute for a therapist, doctor, health professional or lawyer.
We cannot give you information on something we have zero knowledge of ourselves , for if we did it would be called telepathy and as I’ve already mentioned I’ve yet to find evidence of it existing. This is why you will
Gravitate toward the sensitive that connects with you. They will share life lessons / wisdom that will aid you on your journey.
It is also why, you & your friend may disagree on the accuracy on the same psychic. Your life lesson may have connected with their wisdom that helped guide you, yet your friend may have gone through a completely different set of life experiences that the intuitive has yet to face, so they would only have basic knowledge of the issue at hand.
We are not all seeing oracles…just regular people going about their lives raising their families, that just happen to feel & sense things very deeply. So put your wedding band back on if you’re trying to “catch” a psychic out! Coming into a sitting with such low energy is already counter productive.

An intuitive reading can bring comfort and reassurance when you’re at that point in your life when you are finally ready to listen and recognize your truth…..however if you’re not at that point you need to look after your mental health and place it in the hands of a professional with the training to help you recognize yourself again……

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

10 April, 2019 09:13

There’re in a better place:(I wish I could be in a better place)

At least they’re free from pain:
(This conversation is painful)

They wouldn’t like to see you upset:
(Your tears are making me uncomfortable)

They had a good run:
(Old)

Sure they were a good age anyways:
(Old again)

At least they didn’t die roaring:
(Grief Shaming)

You can get on with your life now:
(More heartless grief shaming)

You’re young enough you could still meet someone else:

(You are a complete dick)

I’m sorry for your loss……👌🏻

Next time you offer condolences to someone be mindful of the language you use. The death of an older matriarch/ patriarch can devastate an entire clan, well intentioned ageist statements can offend deeply. The family know how old their loved one was, that doesn Make it any easier, if anything they had longer to love them. Their legacy will forever be woven into the patchwork of their lives.

The death of a partner can leave the existing widow / widower having to completely reevaluate her life. Coupled Friends may pull away due to their own ignorant insecurities.
Do not suggest they get back out dating. It is an incredibly heartless suggestion and says more about how uncomfortable you are sitting with their pain. Learn to keep
Your mouth shut and listen.

Suggesting a loved one is now free from pain is the most dumbass statement ever. It not only serves as a trigger to the suffering they endured but as a needless reminder that they are dead.

Comparing deaths is akin to grief shaming. All Families grieve differently and offering empty platitudes such as “at least they didn’t suffer” to
People who are clearly suffering is thoughtless. Following up that statement with “so & so had it way worse at least they went peacefully” is grief shaming at its worse.

Finally do not say they are in a better place to loved ones that are in the worst place in their lives. Whilst the saccharine intention is to depict a heavenly state of calm, loved ones can find it very distressing to think their loved one has moved on without a care for their current state.

I’m sorry for your loss still is the most honest and sincere form of condolences to offer.
It is usually in the weeks / months following a funeral that the silence can be deafening.
A phone call , a walk, a coffee date and physically checking in can make a world of a difference to a grieving soul.
It’s not about you.

©️Fiona Ní Mhuirrí

By Fiona Faery