4 October, 2017 11:04

Today I’m sending out Love. Like you, I saw the images being streamed from Las Vegas. All over the world there are people hurting.
In times of crisis I look for the helpers. They are always present, perhaps you are one of them…
Where there is suffering, they appear. You could be an advocate , make a donation, but please don’t look away & do nothing.
I can’t watch people suffer , so I donate to charities.
You may have your own favourite charity or you can be charitable locally. Instead of throwing clothes out, bring them to charity shops or clothes banks. Check in on elderly neighbours, as loneliness is the silent killer.
Get off your mobile phone and be present with your family for an hour later on. Switch it off….
We are becoming desensitised to chaos. We need to remember that . Hate breeds more hate.
So today, compliment a stranger.
Lift that phone & have that conversation you were avoiding.
Life is so precious.
Your time & energy are too, spend it wisely. Life is too short for grudges & petty jealousies. We allow stupid triviality to fill our heads & stop us from achieving greatness. We let fear tell us we are too old , too stupid & too late to find happiness/ success / love / forgiveness etc
As long as their is Oxegen pumping through your lungs it is NEVER TOO LATE.
So just do it.
Tell one person you love them today. Tell one person you’re sorry.
Forgive yourself for being so tough on yourself.
Catch a judgemental thought & send love toward it.
Do something today that makes you smile.
Give thanks for the love in your life.
Know you are loved more than you will ever know.
Today I give gratitude for the love I have in my life & im sending love to where it’s needed in the world today, I carry your hearts in my heart today.
Love is the greatest superpower of all

©Fiona Ní Mhuirri

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By Fiona Faery

13 September, 2017 12:53

I’ve thought long & hard about writing this. If you work in the service industry you are more than familiar with clients that cancel on the morning of their appointment or simply don’t show up for their appointment. A year ago, I started taking deposits for sittings. 99% of my clients are sweethearts, but there is 1% that have no integrity & cancel / don’t show.
There are always exceptions / family emergencies etc but there is a level of low lying ignorance that I simply don’t understand. It’s really frustrating when you are booked out for sittings & have a waiting list for clients looking for bookings on that particular date etc only to have a client not have the manners to show up or even have the decency to cancel their appointment.
I noticed also, that it was the client’s who were unable to give a booking deposit were the ones every time that failed to show.
My assistant has had folk swear blind they will show up, saying they can’t work PayPal etc only to be the very ones that don’t turn up on the day.
I’ve made allowances up to now, but from now on I simply will not take a booking without a deposit.
I’m self employed this is my business & a deposit covers me for the loss of revenue etc. It’s not fair on the client’s who were waiting on a cancellation & not fair on my time. If you are booking a sitting please check it’s convenient & you are able to attend on the date/ time in question.
Thank you.

By Fiona Faery

26 July, 2017 09:17

When you breakup with a lover, there’s a respectable grieving period. You are allowed to be sad / angry / upset & can vent at will to release the anguish burning within.What happens though , when a friendship dies?
Friends can literally grow apart.
As the years go by you are no longer on the same wavelength or life experience, you begin to drift on different currents. Oftentimes it’s a joyful reunion when you meet up or sadly through feeling shameful at the loss of contact & fearful of a rebuttal the friendship stagnates.
There are friendships that separate through confusion & crossed wires, usually passive aggressively where one individual expects the other to “know” the grievances committed & the stonewalled silence drives a wedge that through indignation & Anger silences communication.
There are friendships that have ended on the sword of betrayal, that no amount of apology can salvage its bloodied remains.
There are friends who enter our lives for short periods & leave when their purpose is fulfilled.
Sadly, there are many friendships that end through miscommunication.
We have this innate fear of being judged. We feel unworthy. So it’s no surprise when a disagreement arises we cower & run from a perceived confrontation. Your friend may have every right to be pissed with you or you could be over thinking the situation. You do not have all the details as that would require both of you. They cannot tell you that you’re not offended no more than you can tell them.
The only way through this is discussion. By all means get it off your chest & if you both can find middle ground (assuming you want to!) , you need to resolve your differences.
Even if you manage to get closure if the friendship is unsalvable.
The amount of people I read for who sit across from me genuinely confused as to why a friendship ended.
No text/ phone calls etc
Just a dead stop.
It’s incredibly difficult if your friend is passive aggressive for even if you do try and have an honest discussion they will deny any wrongdoing and defer all attempts at resolving your “imagined slight”.
It’s like trying to catch air!
You will walk away even more confused.
If your friend avoids all form of conflict they are more than likely codependent & have been programmed to avoid any form of dispute. If you do manage to
Pin them down they will play the victim card.
I’ve had former friends give me elaborate tales of illness & tragedy to avoid being called out on their bullshit.
If you are going through a friendship breakup or considering breaking up with a bestie, ask yourself the following:
1) Do you have the full story?
2) Are you projecting your stuff on to your friends?
3) Are you afraid of being “judged”?
4) What are you grateful for in this friendship
5) Do you want to stay friends with this person?
6) if you were giving advice to someone In the exact same situation what would it be & why?

Consider the above.
It’s too easy to get on the phone, whinging & bitching about how unfairly you’ve been treated. You’re not 17!
Own your shit.
A sign of maturity is contacting your friend and asking to discuss the situation. It’s fine to let them know you’re upset but there needs to be a desire to resolve conflict on your part, not wanting to get caught up in a dragons duel of ego’s. It becomes a fight to the death of who wronged who more!!!!
You can either be right or be happy.
Decide if the transgression needs to be discussed, noted and move forward. Our friends teach us many lessons and are reflections of our character. There’s an old saying “show me your friends and I’ll show you who you are”.
So who are you?

©Fiona Ní Mhuirri

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By Fiona Faery

13 July, 2017 11:19

Fiona I’m 40 I’ve given up on love at this point in my life…..He sat across from me with a resigned expression on his face. This handsome intelligent man had completely written himself off from love because of his demographic.
Seeing my expression ( I will never be a poker player!), he corrected himself to say..”You know what I mean- at my age if you haven’t met anyone by now you’re not likely to”.

There are times I feel as old as Methuselah….I feel like a parrot trying to repeat the power of intention & the negative repetitious cycles we INVITE into our lives. This particular client has been with me over the years and I could feel his weariness. I’ve seen him in relationships and out of relationships. There are no guarantees. Free will is a gift we have all been blessed with. Even if you see two people that are perfect for each other , if one hasn’t learned their soul lesson, they can exercise their free will & run in the opposite direction. Leaving the other scratching their head wondering what just happened.
I’ve seen couples perfect for each other but one bolting at the last minute as they simply were not ready for a commitment on any level.

Relationships are hard work. It takes two people who want to be together. Who actively work at being a couple. It should not be one-sided & end up with one person making all the effort.
If you’ve ever fallen in love with a wounded soul you will know EXACTLY what this feels like as you struggle to carry the burden of another’s issues on your shoulders; trying to prove your worthiness, as if by showing how compassionate you are they will finally trust again.
It’s a dangerous cycle to get out off.

Coming out of relationships you are vulnerable. Sadly, this is where you can fall straight into a sociopathic toxic relationship that can really do long term damage.
The worst expression I’ve ever heard is” To get over one man- you need to get under another”.
The energy we emit when we are going through a break up is one of loss. Issues of shame, rejection, anger & sorrow mixed with a dollop of self loathing for good measure.
This negative “intention”, as all thoughts carry energy; sends a frequency out into the world. This unconscious signal attracts complete manipulative low life’s into your energy field. The type of characters that if you were in your power & not in the throes of a break up – you’d run a mile from!
(Ever look back thinking- What was I on???)
Therefore, it’s vital you be single for a few months. Surround yourself with loving support, make plans , take a hiatus from social media – which is the most toxic form of passive aggressive warfare post break-up. Get out & get active. Take a course – do charity work.
Break the rut…..
Misery loves company. Sinking into victimhood requires no effort.
Getting off your backside however, does!
Anyways, I want to shake him!
He has an answer for everything I say. He even goes as far to say” Fiona I’m coming to you years & I will come to you in another 2 years and you will say the same thing!”

This is where I have to resist the urge to get violent!!! I’d love to say – yes you bloody have & yes I’ve seen relationships come & go but I’m not Yoda! I do not possess a magic wand that sees you skip into the sunset because real life is bloody hard & there are no guarantees. The one thing I’m certain of is that you can’t give up on love. Learn the lesson but move on from the hurt. Don’t get caught in the blame game.

Keep an open mind.
Not an invisible check list of set criteria your soul mate must fill.
Tall dark handsome rich….
What if he’s short- bald – recently lost his job but the sexiest kindest man you’ve ever met?
Vice-versa for those of you who love sexy bald guys…(you know who you are!!!)
Stop looking in the same places for a potential mate. Mix it up. Go somewhere new for a change.
The major issues I see facing most singles is finding a decent place to meet up. Trial & error is the only way I’m afraid. Get out have fun. Enjoy yourself. Don’t get too caught up in the virtual world of dating. The cat fish phenomenon is alive & well on Facebook as false profile are common place. Skype – meet for coffee- FLIRT! It’s so much fun!

The fear of being hurt keeps us in the dark. Fear of rejection, keeps us silent.
What have you truly got to lose?
For once you know where you stand you’re either got a yes or a no!
If it’s a yes- yipee!
If no -then you can move on and not be strung along & read into every tiny detail. For hours. On end!
Your energy can be channeled more positively than wasted on someone who does not deserve your tears or time for that matter.

Off he went out the door.
I wanted to run after him. Tell him some woman was going to make him laugh & love him more than he would ever know, he just needed to believe in love. For it would find him.
For truly it is when we believe we are worthy of love that the universe will seek to prove you right….

©Fiona Ní Mhuirri

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By Fiona Faery

27 June, 2017 09:52

Despondency is defined as a loss of spirit or courage. Feeling disconnected from source. The light at the end of that tunnel has been switched off. Hope evaporates. People can let you down.
Badly.
It is only natural to sink into despair. Our souls are weary from holding space for those that are not worthy. We literally feel as if the well has run dry & we literally have nothing left to give. A friend in the midst of this heaviness once said to me , “Fiona I’m so ready to go home to spirit, if I didn’t wake tomorrow I would be ok with that”. This person had absolutely no intention of taking their life for one second, they were verbalising how physically, emotions & spiritually exhausted they felt.
When you are despondent your energy is spent. Your motivation has left you.
Sometimes illness enters as you have spent so long pleasing everyone else & ignoring the warning signs your body had been sending you.
Your health that you once took for granted has now become your single greatest struggle. You find out who is there for you pretty fast, when you no longer have the strength or energy to people please. Those that leave you in your hour of need, are not your friends. This might be painful to hear but takers will always take. It’s not a two way source of exchange, hence your energy being consistently drained. If you have been projecting a sense of integrity on to those that lack this virtue, is it any wonder you are completely exhausted?
A rage can fill your body.
A pulsating, visceral destructive force that wants to lash out at the source of your pain. When you internalise anger, the body stores it & it will manifest as a form of dis-ease within the body. I’ve had countless amounts of client’s sit in front of me with mystery diagnosis where their bloods / x-rays / tests came back clear, yet they were physically ill. In most cases the client had endured some grief / heartbreak / trauma that had been repressed as they were too busy to deal with it at the time, only to manifest years later. Toxic pain can squat in your body like a toad & Spread its poisonous bile into your thoughts, hopes & dreams.
You start to become pessimistic, sarcastic & wary of people. You no longer believe in the goodness or kindness of strangers. Everybody has an angle or agenda. Sadly, that is what you will start to attract in your life, hence reinforcing your twisted belief system even further.
You need to distance yourself from the source of your pain. If it is family, go no contact to dissolve the raw emotion.
It is time to stop running and listen to your body.
Destructive cycles of comfort eating / smoking / drinking / impulse buying / hoarding are the dysfunctional defence mechanisms that you revert to when trying to hide from yourself.
We can sink into victimhood with its twin sisters blame & Shame’s endless background commentary running inside our heads.
Happiness is a choice.
You have to fight for it.
When your body is heavy with sorrow & your soul is weary you need to be even more loving with yourself. It’s time to check in with yourself.
If you’ve suffered a betrayal and feel completely alone, know this time is transitory. It shall not last. You need time out to rebuild & restore the soul. You can’t do that with folks still pulling out of your energy.
You need to forgive yourself for putting up with so much crap for so long instead of ridiculing yourself at your “stupidity” for believing in intrinsic values of love, trust & respect. Remember the heart simply wants to be loved. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be seen.
It’s time to make peace with yourself.
This graveyard of despair holds no solace for you. There is no comfort to be found clinging to the bones of old relationships, family or friends that have abandoned you. Cherish the good & learn from the bad.
Make plans.
Even if it’s simply making your bed and going for a walk. It’s a step toward self care that’s important.
Start to incorporate fun into your life. Play your music. Dance. Watch a favourite film. Reconnect with old friends. Take up a hobby & meet new people.
You will start to fill up inside once more. The more time you invest on yourself , the more the universe will find people & situations that will fill you up even more.
You need to let that shit go.
Now is as good a time as any……..

©Fiona Ní Mhuirri

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By Fiona Faery

9 June, 2017 12:17

I love connecting with people. I love finding new ways of interpreting this human experience. We are all so connected & yet there is no size that fits all. Our hearts take such almighty hammerings, yet have the capacity to love, time & time again. There are days where I’m simply blown away by the sheer courage of a person & other days where it takes every ounce of training that I have, to hold a space when someone is entrenched in bitterness.
My heart could explode with joy when I hear of a new love arriving & sadness when I hear of love not meant to be.
I will endeavour to keep my heart open.
Always.
Sadly, this has meant defining my boundaries to an extent that even certain family members are no longer a part of my life. I’ve walked away from friendships & relationships that were codependent.
The more I understood myself & my own processes, the more deeper I could go with my clients, as my emotional range intensified so did my sittings.
I’ve become wary of folk who approach me in public wanting to regurgitate their life story on top of me, colleagues whose first question to me is in relation to “how busy are you!”. Friends who talk over me with their news or emphatically take hostage over the conversation relaying how this exact scenario took place in their life……….!
The art of listening.
Being still. Holding a space. Seeing a person. Truly seeing them. Knowing the potential that is roaring within.
Not being afraid to ask tough questions.
I’ve come to the realisation after 40 years, that I’m not a good friend.
I know that might seem like a shocking statement but it’s true. I cannot turn a blind eye. I speak my truth & that has lost me more friends then I can count over the years. Whether it was calling someone out on their integrity, refusing to take sides, giving some hard truths etc you can count on me.
I realise that most folk don’t like the truth. It’s an observation that I’ve found to be true, which is why when friends ask my opinion, I now forewarn them with….do you want the truth!!!
But back to the bad friend part.
When someone has lost my regard, be it through some minor infraction on their part, I’ve found it very difficult to afford them the same degree of trust again. In my twenties & thirties, the amount of betrayals I forgave, even forgot about as I kept holding the “best” version of the friendship in my heart. It wasn’t until I hit my thirties that I began to realise that I needed to seriously define my boundaries. That my perception of friendship was to give selflessly & not receive. I placed my friends on pedestals & was horrified when they turned out to be….human!!!!
I’ve seen betrayal in all her guises.
I’ve closed the door with my heart breaking but jaw hardened by resolve.
I’ve also looked back with gratitude for the lesson bestowed after the pain had softened to allow the pearls of wisdom appear.
The friendships I appreciate now, give me space. I realise I like my space.
If I haven’t seen you in a year, that ok. I will see you when I see you.
I’ve learned to stop forming attachments or expectations on folk. I accept people as I find them.
I know it sounds quite simple, but it really was incredibly liberating when I discovered this aspect of my personality.
It has also meant that my toleration of bullshit meter is very low.
I simply can’t sit through delusional self indulgent conversations any more.
I take my hat off to those that can & do.
I. Just. Can’t.
I feel you get to a point in your life and you know who you are. I revel in company that shoots from the hip & has twisted humour. You know exactly where you stand with. There’s something incredibly fortifying & wholesome with a person that what you see is what you get.
There comes a time in your life when what you see is what you get! I no longer have time for the trivial or hollow, but stand before me in your power & you have my undivided attention…….

©Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

7 June, 2017 13:22

A few interesting observations…I’ve had a really bad chest infection that has dragged on over two weeks now. Steroids & antibiotics haven’t worked.
I had an important night on Saturday with 70 in attendance & managed to catch a vomiting bug on top of said infection. I asked spirit to help me keep it together until I had finished my meet & greet with the last of the audience at the end of my evening….then I ran!
The rest of the night shall be left to your imagination! I was facing a 3 hours long drive home but I refused to allow my physical body to defeat me.
My assistant had never been to Sligo and I wanted to show her “the abundance” of nature & beauty the west truly has. So off we went to Glencar waterfall- the poet W.B. Years wrote about in his poetry …we even stopped to pay respects at his grave in Drumcliffe. The heavens opened at the waterfall and we both started laughing! I could see the energy rising off the water and felt my entire auric field being cleansed. I then drove out to Strandhill and we watched as the surfers braved the mighty waves of the Atlantic Ocean. I kept thinking “how abundant”, “how beautiful”.
I noticed a woman, parked in the car beside us. She was hugging her little Bichon fraise and was crying.
I could feel her grief.
As I was reversing out to leave, I asked my assistant to knock on her window and give her one of my Tibetan silver Angels. (I give one to every client, to remind them they are never alone..)
I think Teresa is just used to going with the flow with me at this point! She hopped out, tapped on her window & handed her the angel, respectfully leaving her to the sacred clearance she was undergoing.
Never underestimate the power of a simple gesture. I believe we pulled into that space at that exact moment for that exact reason…
Anyhoo, I’ve taken the last 2 days off work as my body is wrecked. I’m lying here in bed with the wind blowing a gale force (it’s june in ireland…sigh!)&
My cat stretched the length of me. I can hear my son listening to a movie on Netflix in his room.
I am content.
I am abundantly content.
I am grateful of this opportunity to rest my body.
My assistant took everything off to work from home today so I could switch off!!!! She rang after lunch to say the phone hadn’t stopped ringing all day & my messenger is full of enquiries.
I thanked spirit & the universe.
I hear the lesson loud & clear.
You can’t put red diesel into a Ferrari & expect it to run, so why run your body into the ground & expect it to be ok?
Love to you all on your journeys
Soul sisters & brothers
Fi
X

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By Fiona Faery

2 June, 2017 12:47

The new wave of light workers are here and are being awakened in their droves. I’m constantly seeing it in sittings, whereby people are changing their careers/ relationships & lifestyle to follow the guidance of their souls. My sittings have changed.
The soul is speaking.
The awakening has begun.
Authenticity is at its root.
I’ve been asked similar questions on my relationship with spirit in these last few weeks. It tends to begin with “you might think this is a stupid question”……and I always answer “Try me!”
I have worked closely with spirit for nearly 20 years and can only speak for my personal journey, but that is how I’ve always taught my students, as I believe in awakening an individual’s calling to their own unique path.
I became incredibly frustrated several years ago, with the proliferation of badly taught courses & Mc Mediums- that one weekend course = the next John Edwards…..!
I encountered bad manners, lack of character & disrespect, in both students & teachers alike. I found myself disillusioned & disappointed with an unregulated industry. So I wrote….
At first it was poetry, an outlet to express my creativity and as time wore on it transformed into the pieces I write today and has influenced my Tuesday night live Facebook shows. My trust in my spiritual guidance has been implicit. I watched as colleagues, friends and family fell by the wayside. Uncomfortable with my truth.
Here’s the thing, people don’t like the truth. Sometimes it is the kindest act you can do to stop someone’s suffering.
I’ve been incensed at cowardly readers not wanting to give “bad news”. (I don’t mean death, I’m referring to relationship etc)
I’ve lost dear friends as I’ve refused to compromise my integrity. I’ve left influential circles as I just could not put up with the superficial bullshit that goes with it. That’s not what I’m here for.
The spiritual path is not for the faint hearted. It can bring you to the depths of despair & moments of clearest clarity. You can get caught up in bigger illusions as you try to shed your perceived illusions.
I’ve had to hold a space for those that have loftily informed me they are from a “higher” vibration & try to gently shed light on the reality of the vibration they were really coming from. To the extreme of being in the presence of a powerful healer who has been manipulated for others selfish agendas etc.
One thing is for sure, we are collectively waking up. As we step out of the shackles that have bound us, guilt can assault us for awhile.
Sometimes the lesson is in surrendering to what is, what will be and allowing yourself to trust once more, you are worthy of happiness and you have a right to be here. The universe shall unfold it’s precious lessons but you must become like the reed and bend. Attaching your hopes to possessions & people only causes suffering. It’s time you realised that happiness is a choice despite the cards you’ve been dealt. There’s no knight in shining armour or amount of money that can solve your misery. The answers have & always will be within your reach. Start listening to your gut, it’s never let you down, follow its gentle guidance and watch as your life starts to fill with synchronistic events & helpful people. The universe is always listening…….are you?

©Fiona Faery

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By Fiona Faery

26 May, 2017 11:21

I’m not telepathic. I can’t read minds.
I don’t have the Lotto numbers. Yup…you guessed right…that means Bingo & Betting slips too! I’m not here to tell you what you want to hear…..
Did you catch that last sentence?
I hate the term “fortune teller”.
Come to think of it “psychic medium” makes me wince as well!
Terms such as an intuitive or empath sit better, as that reveals the true nature of my life’s work.
I am able to hold a sacred space no matter how horrific the circumstances are in my client’s life. If I feel the client is not ready for a sitting- I shut it down instantly. I refer clients to therapists regularly.
I AM NOT A THERAPIST.
Nor should I be considered a cheap alternative to one. I will call you out on that one….hence why I only allow one sitting every six months, it’s to discourage dependency.
I’m protective over my clients and it gives me the greatest joy to see the unions, successes & celebrations that my clients have won through their own resilience & hard work.
I facilitate a sacred space to allow you to connect with your greatness. The drudgery of life can take the wind out of our sails. I remind you that you are the captain of your ship. I show you that you already possess a compass within, that can steer your soul toward calmer waters. You are the one who has to do the hard work. Here’s the thing…life is hard work! It’s even harder if you swim against a tide of low self-esteem, resentment & regret.
Deep currents of guilt threaten to drag you under, unless you learn to free yourself of old patterns of self loathing. Every single soul I have ever read for is so fucking precious. I wish I could describe how amazing an honour it is to hold sacred space for you. To see the light flood through your eyes once more, to feel the spark ignite within. I know that you are about to make big things happen as you have remembered your greatness. I whisper silent prayers of gratitude to your loved ones in spirit for guiding you forward.
Yes, there are the moments when I want to bang my head off the wall. When a client expects me to have super Human powers of telepathy and tell them what to do/ the career path when they haven’t a clue; to be a private investigator with regard to their partners fidelity etc.

You may not be ready to be told you will love again. But you will.

You may not be ready to be told they are wrong for you. You already know.

You may not be ready to hear that it’s time to let go. But you shall….

It is these moments I bear witness to the resilience of the human spirit. To fight against the odds. To walk away from the burning building we used to call home. To know that the word “family” does not necessarily mean biological. That love is a two way street. That you are so worthy of love. Right now. As you read this…Y-O-U.

I hear the stories about unscrupulous readers. The urban myths- she couldn’t be read and died the next day….! I stepped away from my peers, feeling weary of the bitchiness & backbiting. In my naivety, I believed that people who professed themselves to be spiritual were good.
The art of discernment and good ol fashioned word of mouth are the best ways to be guided to an intuitive medium.
I’m not Yoda.
The answers all…I do not have.
But I do see you…if you let me, I will hold a space for you until you see yourself.

©Fiona Ní Mhuirri

By Fiona Faery

23 May, 2017 12:18

What mask are you wearing today?Are you being the perfect daughter?
Blindly Rushing to the demands of your family and extended family, in the hope that they will see you and validate your exhaustible efforts….
Are you the perfect wife,
suppressing your needs so your spouse can feel confident & comfortable while you are seething with resentment from within?
Are you the sibling
that is always the go to girl? The one the family leans on for strength, yet your back is breaking from the burden of responsibility placed upon you.
Are you the sibling
that is known as the black sheep? One transgression that you’ve spent your life repaying? Have you adopted a “may as well be hung as a sheep instead of a lamb” approach to your family and are left out of all family decisions as you can’t be trusted?
The masks we wear to the outside world are varied, but within our families we should be free from such social constructs.
Sadly, as in the examples above, some families have pigeon holed their loved ones into roles they feel acceptable and it can take an individual a lifetime to break free from these restricting toxic shackles, that in some cases can stunt their emotional growth.
We are living life in the fast-forward lane. Most clients I sit for are suffering from exhaustion & they don’t even know it. When we ignore the callings from our soul it begins to grow smaller. The ego’s loud demanding voice takes over. We have to be bigger, better, stronger than others. Even if it comes at our own personal expense.
You may catch yourself in a moment of such frenzied activity & ask yourself ; why and who am I doing this for?
If the answer makes you smile & feels good- you’re on the right path, as your truth literally sits with you.
If the answer elicits a sigh that comes from your toes….it’s time you made some changes in your life & pronto.
Then there are the moments we crash headfirst into that wall of weariness, it can be illness, a change in life circumstances, but one thing is for sure you have knowingly ignored those red flags….you know the ones! The inner alarm bells that said “Slow down”, “say NO”, “this is too much”.
We push these thoughts to the back of our heads, as if it’s a sign of weakness instead of an urgent message from our intuitiveness.
Then “BANG!”.
After the crash happens, we remember that exact moment our bodies told us to take it slow and we CHOSE to ignore it.
Our bodies are always talking to us. It sends us subtle warnings… tiredness, irritation, a gnawing sense of something not sitting right until it has run out of options and physical / mental illness stops you in your tracks.
For some, most spend their lives meeting other peoples needs. Looking for validation outside themselves.
We only get one life, so why live it trying so desperately to get acceptance from others. Truly, you need to find that within.
Don’t think I mean to tell you not to be without conscience or cause. As it’s of utmost importance you stay true to your integrity. I mean, when you are giving and looking for validation in return, that’s where things get messed up. When you are being emotionally manipulated by family / partner/ children / Boss etc. You need to address the root cause of looking outside of yourself for this approval.
If you don’t, you will always be on the run, there will never be enough hours in the day and you will never truly know if the people who are in your life are in it because they value you, or value the use they have of you….
Remember it’s your life, this ain’t no dress rehearsal.
The choice of how you choose to live it has always been yours.
So don’t you think it’s time you choose You?

©Fiona Ní Mhuirri

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